After the Cremation: Ceremony and Remembrance Suggestions

Every day, we hear stories about how people are struggling to find meaningful ceremonies to honor a loved one who has been cremated. Somehow they think that cremation means there can be no remembrance service, or commemorative event – and that’s simply not true.

This short video from The Remembrance Process explains options for remembrance in such a loving way.  Take a moment and watch and then start the process of describing how you want to remember. 

A remembrance service simply sets aside time to celebrate the personality and accomplishments of someone you loved. And, it gives comfort and support to those left behind. It can take place prior to the cremation, or afterwards. It can be part of a scattering ceremony.

Here are some popular places for memorial services:

• Beach
• Lake
• Park
• The Family Backyard
• River or Creek Side
• Home
• Restaurant
• Golf Course
• Boat

The ceremony you create should be full of experiences: sights, sounds, word, music, good food, and good friends. You could incorporate:

• A photo slideshow of person’s life
• A playlist of favorite songs
• A time for guests to come forward to tell stories: they could light a candle or incense before or after story or offering has been shared.
• Scattering the ashes during the ceremony
• Distributing ashes in small containers so that guests take a memento to keep
• Placing ashes in biodegradable balloons, to be released as a group
• Placing small amount of ashes in floatable, biodegradable structure, to be released into water
• Arranging for a dove or butterfly release
• Gathering friends for a blessing of a garden or special spot in honor of your loved one
• Blessings of various faiths or spiritual practices

Is the Time Right for You?

Perhaps you aren’t yet ready to plan such an event. And that’s OK – in fact, choosing cremation has given you the time you may need to feel ready to take this on.

Yet, we encourage you to have some gathering, at some time – whether now or in the future – to commemorate your loved one’s life. When you’re ready, call us to explore your cremation remembrance service options.